Our happiness is never in our hands......

I was just thinking about wat are the factors that makes us feel happy and contended and afta givin it a thought realised that our self happiness never depends on us.. It is of course something that we possess but certainly cant be acquired with our self efforts..


My happiness atleast is never in my hands... and when i thought about the whole issue and after a lot of empathy, felt hat its not true just in my case but almost in all rational human beings excluding the selfish ones.. Nobody can be happy with just him or her being wealthy or if he posseses everything that he needs.. It is very vital for the people around him to be happy too if he is gotta be happy..
According to me the feeling of happiness comes to its true effect only when it is shared with others.. Its not happiness when someone is experiencing it in isolation.

If a person attains 1st rank in his exams he feels all the more happy only when his friends and the people whom he knows acknowledges his achievement... and also the person attaining the 1st rank is not just his effort.. There are loads of other factors which are responsible for him to attain what he has.. Firstly his teacher,secondly his parents, thirdly his friends, fourthly the person who has valued his paper.. in this way his final happiness actually depends on various factors lik the above mentioned..

One cannot be happy only if just he is happy or only if his personal needs are satisfied.. For example if an individual is bestowed with all human capabilities, if he is monetarily healthy,phsically healthy wiith no problems in his personal life at all doess'nt mean he can be happy.. What if everyone else around him are casualities of the problems that life imposes??? I don't think he can be happy with only his self sucess and glory...

I now realise how important it is to be good to whoever you meet and make them feel good because without their happiness and satisfaction we cant be happy and without our good wishes to them they cant be happy.. so its a mutual give an take policy that we social beings follow that makes us so complex and unique...