Wat my mind says....

Most of us at one time or another have experienced the loss of someone we love. There is no way to avoid the pain completely, but we can find ways to cope, to become stronger, and, eventually, to find peace.

Dealing with death is a process we all must endure at some time in our life. When we receive the notice of the death of a loved one, the words crush our hearts and take our breath away. One message cannot stand on its own as memories and thoughts rush through our minds in a flurry of emotion. If the person was extremely close to us, we may even feel anger at the person for leaving us alone to face the world.

In all walks of life, people have devised ways to help them cope with the inevitability and finality of death. In all lifestyles, talking is the best way to open your heart and allow the grief to subside. Talking releases the emotions; it clears space in your heart and mind for a touch of joy to enter your life.

If someone you know has suffered a loss, the best thing you can do for that person is to listen. Face the person, don’t look away, and give them your full attention. You did not cause the tears they shed; neither did you cause the pain they are feeling. The tears make the pain more visible to you, but you did not give them the pain. It was already there.

When they cry, you may feel helpless and not know what to do. Just remember, you don't need to do a thing, just be there for them. Allow their tears to flow and it will help them to heal.

You need not speak, but do not turn away. Your silence as they cry is all they need. Be patient and do not fear. Listening with your heart to what they feel relieves their pain; for when the tears can freely come and go, their heart will become lighter in spirit.

I believe when we have learned all the lessons we were sent to Earth to learn, we are allowed to shed our physical body and return in spirit. Our body imprisons our soul the way a cocoon encloses the future butterfly. At the time of our physical death, we will be free of pain, free of fears and free of worries. We will be as a beautiful butterfly returning home to God.

The most important thing for you to remember is you are never alone. There are people who can help you cope with your grief as deal with it you must. For life goes on and you will continue to grow and to sing, to love and to dance, even after your loved one has parted. We cannot avoid the pain death brings into our life, but we can choose to not allow that pain to overwhelm us to the point of a lifeless non-existence.