Wat my mind says....

Most of us at one time or another have experienced the loss of someone we love. There is no way to avoid the pain completely, but we can find ways to cope, to become stronger, and, eventually, to find peace.

Dealing with death is a process we all must endure at some time in our life. When we receive the notice of the death of a loved one, the words crush our hearts and take our breath away. One message cannot stand on its own as memories and thoughts rush through our minds in a flurry of emotion. If the person was extremely close to us, we may even feel anger at the person for leaving us alone to face the world.

In all walks of life, people have devised ways to help them cope with the inevitability and finality of death. In all lifestyles, talking is the best way to open your heart and allow the grief to subside. Talking releases the emotions; it clears space in your heart and mind for a touch of joy to enter your life.

If someone you know has suffered a loss, the best thing you can do for that person is to listen. Face the person, don’t look away, and give them your full attention. You did not cause the tears they shed; neither did you cause the pain they are feeling. The tears make the pain more visible to you, but you did not give them the pain. It was already there.

When they cry, you may feel helpless and not know what to do. Just remember, you don't need to do a thing, just be there for them. Allow their tears to flow and it will help them to heal.

You need not speak, but do not turn away. Your silence as they cry is all they need. Be patient and do not fear. Listening with your heart to what they feel relieves their pain; for when the tears can freely come and go, their heart will become lighter in spirit.

I believe when we have learned all the lessons we were sent to Earth to learn, we are allowed to shed our physical body and return in spirit. Our body imprisons our soul the way a cocoon encloses the future butterfly. At the time of our physical death, we will be free of pain, free of fears and free of worries. We will be as a beautiful butterfly returning home to God.

The most important thing for you to remember is you are never alone. There are people who can help you cope with your grief as deal with it you must. For life goes on and you will continue to grow and to sing, to love and to dance, even after your loved one has parted. We cannot avoid the pain death brings into our life, but we can choose to not allow that pain to overwhelm us to the point of a lifeless non-existence.

u understand a woman's mind, u can understand anybodys!!!!

Im 20 now.... and have had and have good number of friends who are girls... well according to me they are wonderful creations of god.. because unlike guys they are way too complex!!!! A woman can very easily read a man's mind and thoughts but i don't think a man has ever been able 2 sucessfully do it.. may be few would have done it.. which would ve been either by fluke or may b is a female psychologist.....

The speed at which these wonderful creations change themselves may can be compared to light.. and the thought process is so very intense and deep... they are nt at all lk guys who is so carefree and cool....

I personally feel nature has created the two genders in such a way that its evenly balanced.. like in the sense, men are physically strong and women are not as compared to men. so to compensate that particular shorcoming in a woman they are mentally strong and shrewed and men are not to their extent...

i have observed women being aware and concerned about things whic are so very minute and non significant..

lik i remem meetin a gal.. basically my frnd was trying to hook me up with her and jus a formal meet.. and everythin went on fine and we said bye to each other.. ad later she has told my frnd tat she doesnt lik me.... and when asked why?? she says.." his nails werent cut"!!!!!! man this is heights... wel may be nt al gals r lik ths bt in general they r very shrewed smart and fast cmapred to guys... coz guys r chilled out elements who r least bothered about things..

So now im thinkin whether to think lik how i do or lik how gals do.. does'nt mean im tryin 2 b gal... jus means if i shud b more aware of things!!! :)

Some facts according to me!!!!

If u TREAT her nicely, she says u are IN LOVE with her;
If u Don't, she says u are PROUD.

If u DRESS nicely, she says u are trying to LURE her;
If u Don't, she says u are from CHENNAI.

If u ARGUE with her, she says u are STUBBORN;
If u keep QUIET, she says u have no BRAINS.

If u are SMARTER than her, she'll lose FACE;
If she's Smarter than u, she is GREAT.

If u don't Love her, she tries to POSSESS u;
If u Love her, she will try to LEAVE u (very true huh?)

If u don't make love with her, she says ! u don't Love her;
If u do!! she says u are CHEAP.

If u tell her your PROBLEM, she says u are TROUBLESOME;
If u don't, she says that u don't TRUST her.

If u SCOLD her, u are like a CHACHA to her;
If she SCOLDS u, it is because she CARES for u.

If u BREAK your PROMISE, u Cannot be TRUSTED;
If she BREAKS hers, she is FORCED to do so.

If u SMOKE, u are BAD BOY;
If she SMOKES, she is a GENTLELADY.

If u do WELL in your exams, she says it's LUCK;
If she does WELL, it's BRAINS.

If u HURT her, u are CRUEL;
If she HURTS u, u are too SENSITIVE!! & sooo hard to please!

Why am i not!!!!

Oh lord !!!!! why am i not deaf and dumb?? i ve reached a stage in life where now i feel it would be so great if i was deaf AND dumb.. initially i thought one would suffice but now i feel its preferable to be both.....

How much i talk... the process never stops.. absolutely no control. goes on and on. and hearing somethin back to watever i talk is the aftermath of it..

how muc i talk. and most f thm being unproductive.

I was just wondering how nice it would ve been if i was deaf and dumb. I need not listen to anythin and need 2 talk for or about anythin... I can always read and play and need not listen to an kind of loose talks spoken by pple arnd... me and my own world..

And now having the ability to talk and listen even if i try being quite and live a solitary life people think "oh this guy has so much of attitude" ... MAN!!!! its so pissing off...

Right now i don wanna have any frnds,relationships of any kind lik parents,brother,frnds gal frnds etc..

The kinda Utopian life i have in my mind is to get up in the morning, go for a jog then get ready and go to the college on time... spend the whole day in various libraries gaining lots of knowledge and in the dusk when the sun has jus set sit in a mission or a place nt a temple coz these days tas the place being most visited by people... so a place wher pple hate comin to i would lik to go and meditate for an hour or so... and then come home read books again and go to bed by 9 pm.... I would call ths as life...

But i ve a strong feelin in my mind tat its actually ths particular age and time tat im passing through tat is makin me think all these...

May be wil go in search of the someone who is already in me and be happy with my own spirit... after al who can understand my ownself better than me....

Nostalgia!!!!!

Feelin so nostalgic after vacating the old house and entering a new house..... new place,new people around everythin new exept the gadgets and accessories whic was in my old house...... after spending 8 odd years years it was very painful to leave the old one and live here though this house much better in all respects.. there are lots of sentiments and emotions attached to the old house...

I miss the terrace of the old house whic was 24/7 open and could do watever i want to do out there... and here its always locked and have to take the watchman's permission of al the enter the terrace...

I miss the cool bachleors who lived right oppiste my house who used 2 be awake till late night and give me company when i burn my midnight oil studying 4 my exams.. and here ?? nah.. here my balcony is somewhere in middle of the sky... i feel im in a different layer of atmosphere all together...

I miss the nights when my friends used 2 come over to my house when my parents were outta station and end up sleeping on the roof afta gettin sloshed and afta passing out... here i cant even think of it...

I miss the long lane whic was in between the building where every weekend me along wit my frnds play cricket and all the young couples used 2 walk and admire our game and yea also some elements who used 2 yell at us..

I wanna go back 2 my old house... :(( :( :( hope the new house is much beter in terms of bringing gud and bad times.. coz after al its the house wher finally all our thought processes germinate...