Life is like sand. . .

I think this month of every year is the gyaan time for me.... all possible thoughts are running through my mind... thoughts which make sense whic dont make sense etc... I have started too see them even in my dreams.. every night i see a loong dream and co incidently even the dream conveying the same message to me...

I just realized that life is actually like a handful of sand... where the sand in our hand are the different people and various events we come across.... and if we notice sand when in our hands if crushed harder the more it tends to rush out through the corners and and the ends of our hands... same applies to our life... the more we feel like getting something the more desperate we get to achieve our goals the quicker the go away.. i dont mean we should'nt ve any wants or so.. but shudnt expect too much from anythin and shudnt get desp. 4 anythin...

same applies to the people.. the more we try to rub on with them the more they start feeling un comfortable and they tend to push off ... Actually the urge to get somethin at any cost is a positive trait in someone but then life doesnt accept it... it wants us to be patient about each and everythin...

Therefore the sand in hand must just be held safely in our hands in such a way that they are in good contact with our body and do not get away too... instead of crushing them and getting them too close and eventually loosing them ... True!!!! " Life is like sand in hand".... at the same time even when held in hand the fingers of our hand should be close to each other... These are some key to be happy in life rather to just have a contented life...

Nobody owns Nobody!!!!!!!

I ts hightime that i realize nobody owns nobody..... someone can own a car,a house, or any other tangible asset.. but nobody can own anybody...

Even our parents who gave birth to us do not own us... We before being a son or daughter, before being a friend, before being siblings etc. are all individuals... We are the one who own ourself.. and nobody else..

I see so many people taking their fellow beings for granted and try to influence their behaviour and acts... it doesnt mean if a man gets married to a woman,he owns her!!!! she still is an individual first and then a wife...

Its a hard fact for me to accept... i love someone and i want that person too to love me... sid!!!! this is called the heights of selfishness!!!! she is an individual and has her own identity and choice.. its a fact but a bitter one.. how can i force some1 to fall in love??? but i feel all are the same... i feel everybody wants what he or she wants irrespective of the feeling and realization of fact that the other person may not want it....

i feel human beings are no more social.. they are getting back to the early form of how they were!!!! animals!!! and co relatng the depletion of all the natural resources to ths particular phenomenon i feel the world is gonna come to an end very soon and the resources will again take millions of years 2 form and man will be born again as an individual become social and finally die as an individual again !!!! "what goes around comes around!!!! "

Its a god's gift!!!!

Wat is tat whic is god's gift?? for me its my dearest friend who is god's gift to me... i feel if god can give somethin which would take care of all vices of the world, then it can be only in the form of a good friend...

I first felt its money tat can buy all the happiness.. then felt no its not.. money we may have it today and there is no assurance of it being with us tomoro too...

I then felt oh may be its our parents who are god's gift to us.. but then i felt yea true they r gifts but later i felt we as their children are better gifts to them than they being our gifts... We achieve something they get the credit for giving birth to such wonderful children... i may be wrong but somehow i felt they dont fit into that spot of being a gift to us.. they can be good assets...

Then i felt oh gal friend??!! hehe without giving a second thought i wrote tat character off... they are once again good but too much of expectation from them.. if we fail to do somethin whic they expect us to, we end up becoming bad boyfrnds inspite of sooo many other gud things tat we wud ve done in the past.. nevermind...

Then to some extent i felt my teachers... yea i was convinced .. but the drawback with this character is they stay with us for a short while.. all of soon graduate and move up and they still stay at the same school or college and do their duty...

Finally i felt wel its only a good friend a really close friend who can be our biggest boon .. But getting a really gud friend is pretty tuf in this contemporary and superficial world but once found nothing like it... i feel of all the characters i ve come aacross in my 20 yrs of life i feel i have got the maximum amount of happiness with a good friend around me..

People unfortunately get addicted to alcohol, to ciggis but fortunately i have got addicted to my friend... my living is incomplete without my friend...

My joy, my happiness are of course dependent on soo many people around me but the final happiness untill shared with my friend i don feel as if i have actually acheived something... i feel as normal and sober as i was b4 i achieved it...

I dunno if its the same with all but this is how it is with me since last few months when i got an amaaizing friend... We are not bound to anything at all and yet care for each other... Ths particular relationship is so very different and special to me.. She is someone surely sent by the gods.. im so happy for the person whomever she is gonna spend her married life with coz i feel he is gonna be the luckiest person on this holy earth.. she is bold, humble,caring,beautiful, i mean i can just go on... I feel so lucky and priveleged to have met her in my life.. This is a very crucial and important session of my life.. i had to be looked on things lik if i have actually caught the right track of my life and things lik that.... and with ths sorta friend around im sure im always gonna be on the right track...

Dear friend my days are made coz of u, and days make months, months make years and years make a lifetime... im sure my life is made.. i feeel as if im on top of the world to have some1 like u around.. i look down on everyone else who is nt a gud friend of urs.. they are all missing some1 gr8 in their lives.... but who cares.. i hope they realise their mistakes and see to it that they too have a gud friend in life... gal friends or boy friends come and go.. but a genuine friend will always stay forever.. and my friend ll always stay with me throughout my life backing me ... even if not physically im sure she ll mentally always be present in my mind and keep bringing the smiles and happiness which i have right now. She is sorta deeply engraved in my heart... UR THE BEST FRIEND I HAVE SEEN AND I HAVE BEEN WITH.. "its from the gods" .. though some pple don believe the existence of god.. ;)

Two imporatant people all of us need!!!

Well im sure if i randomly ask people " whom do u think u need the most in your life" im sure 90 % of the people would say its the mother and the father... k cheers to people who say that.. but then after cheers to them i would certainly ask all of those who said its mum and dad or brother brother and sister..etc ( basically blood rels) that did they really think and answer the question??

I say this because i feel its not our parents who are actually responsible for what we are and how we are... things lik schooling, discipline etc etc in the early ages of our lives are no doubt in our parent's hands but then after schooling wen a boy or a gal enters college and beyond i dont think parents have anything to do or have no role to play other than paying our education fees ;)...leaving out the people who end up listening to their parents with a blindfolded belief and trust on them..

I very strongly feel parents exist only to leave us to a particular stage from where its adios to them and hi hellos to some special people in life who influence and mould our lives forever..

there are many such roles.. for example in my life.. my teachers have played a major role in my outlook towards life.. I still remem my economics sir of my high school who taught so well and who influenced my thought process so much that today im completely soaked into that subject and doing my masters in it..

Another good example was my international relations lecturer in degree college who spoke about life and things regarding them that now my bent of mind and thought process has completely changed...

And then friends... luckily all the friends i ve made are all good or rather i saw to it that all my friends are nice and good hearted people to hang around with. and now when i think of all these events and all the different people whom i have met have all played a very significant role in shaping up my overall personality...

Practically if looked into this... Al of us right from secondary schooling and pre univ. age hardly spend time at home with parents and siblings or any of our blood relations... if looked all of us have spent majority of our lives wit our classmates wit our teachers and predominantly friends... We get up in our houses and finally get back home only to sleep or rather spend the night at home coz we tend be and ought to be good children at home only then our parents get pleased or else im sure not many socially active people would even like to that....

And if looked at it statistically... an average Indian boy or gal spends his life at his home until he is 18 for those who end up studying out and 21 for those of us who study in the same city.. and after our education we start working and once we start working we very soon become independent and tend to search for a good partner and finally get married by late 20s... so its only 20-25 years that we actually spend our lives wit our parents.. we may spend our lives with them even after that but after that they may not live for too long and may pass away once they are 67 taking into account the average life expectancy index of india...

So according to me THE TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE who hold the key for anyone's happiness and well being is 1) a good friend and 2) a good wife/husband or boyfriend/ gal friend who are not married... Because we often tend to be careful while talkin to our boyfriend/gal friend and when we cant speak somethin to them we can always flush out that anger or pain to our good friend..

And most of the times in most people's lives a gud friend ends up becoming the boyfriend or gal friend if he/she is of opposite sex... therefore one has to very carefully choose these two personalities very carefully...

And i have already got an amaizing frnd in my life for the rest of my life.... and im sure she ll never take the position of an amaaizing gal frnd but still ll remain my best friend ever in life and the same applies to her.. im nt sure if she can or cant live without me but im very sure i definitely cant live without her love and support and here i mean living as nt just being alive.. i mean being alive happily... im sure even if i get a gal frnd my mind an soul will keep longing for her... no1 can substitute her...

Its only after all these sorta events in my life i felt parents just giv birth to us thats all... rest of all other things depends on what kind of people we meet and what kind of people we chose to live with...